MarriageWhen did we become roommates, and how do we find each other again?
When the house gets quiet and the conversations get smaller, one honest question can be a place to start.
Author
Simone Ellis
I'm Simone, 58, married thirty-one years to the same stubborn man. We almost didn't make it twice. I write about marriage: the seasons nobody warns you about, and what kept us at the table.
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MarriageAm I controlling for wanting a call when he's out until sunrise?
He says it barely happens, so why are you the one up at three in the morning, doing math? Here's the truth about a simple call, and how to ask for it.
MarriageIs it him, or am I asking one man to carry every mood I have?
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You love his family, or you're trying to. But somewhere between Sunday dinner and her opinions about your house, you stopped feeling like the two of you come first.
MarriageCould we really care for each other when life gets hard?
Nobody brings it up at the engagement dinner. But if you’re thinking about growing old together, it’s worth asking what showing up for each other really means.
MarriageAre you too tired for him, or too tired of carrying everything alone?
Some nights a pillow is the honest answer. Other nights your tiredness is holding a door shut. Here's how to tell the difference, and what to say about it in daylight.